The Back Story

Ah yes... the back story, the schadenfreude. Once upon a time, I was married for a long while, years - happily - until I wasn't. Then I set out to try to live a new life that was seemingly exciting and full of promise. Cut to present day and I am here alone, late at night, writing on my blog - to you :-) Apparently, I did not read the fine print on that second relationship with my eyes open so that is... over, needless to say, and I am now The Newbie Single Mama!


I'm writing this blog for its cathartic qualities, but also because I know that there are many women out there who are just like me. They're not scratching their way out of their cubicles to announce to the world their outrageous fortunes.  Rather, they belong to a quiet society where members can be spotted by certain clues.. The clues being, a familiar phrase, a knowing look, a common book, or dark circles under the eyes from giving comfort on a late-night call. It's difficult for us to come out and say who we are - we're proud, we're tough, we're professionals, we're your bosses, your mothers, your friends. Maybe when the pain is further from the surface..


For me, the pain subsides little by little each day. Some days are better than others. Some days I literally work through the pain. I'm old enough to know this and I've read enough and had enough counseling to know that it's part of the process, the recycling of my heart. I'm blessed to have an amazing support system, but as much as they love me, no one I know is in the same position - mid 30s, two children, and single. So this is unchartered territory that I have to cunningly navigate and while keeping my wits about me.